Offer Negotiation:
The universal playbook
Everyone negotiates. The psychology is the same whether you're in tech, healthcare, finance, or retail. The only thing that changes is which levers you pull.
Let's kill the stigma
Negotiating is not greedy. It's expected. The other side has a budget. They made an offer below that budget. They expect you to negotiate. When you don't, you leave money on the table — and they know it.
$24,000+ just to get you to this offer (job posts, resume review, interviews, coordination)
150-200% of your salary = your fully-loaded annual cost to them (benefits, taxes, overhead)
Your extra $5K = roughly 3% of your annual cost. Mouse droppings.
“They will not feel offended if you ask for it.” — patio11
In this guide
The psychology that works everywhere
Sequence wins over cleverness
What you can actually negotiate
Copy/paste conversations
Universal principles
These principles work whether you're negotiating $50K or $500K, in tech or teaching. Master these first.
1. Never share your current salary
In many states, it's illegal for employers to ask. Even where legal, deflect: "I'm focused on the scope of this role—can you share the band?" Your past salary anchors you to your past. Your new salary should reflect your new role.
2. Let them make the first offer
When asked for salary expectations, defer: "I'm flexible within your range for this level—can you share it?" This prevents you from anchoring low. Once they name a number, that becomes the floor.
3. Always ask for time
"Thank you, I'm excited. Can I take 48 hours to review the full package?" Never negotiate in the moment. You need time to research, compare, and counter calmly.
4. Negotiate total compensation
If base is capped, shift the conversation: "If we can get to $X total in year one through some mix of base and signing..." Different levers have different flexibility.
5. Be specific and committal
"If you can get to $X, I'm ready to sign." This gives the recruiter a story to take to compensation. Vague asks get vague responses.
The timeline
Most outcomes are decided by sequence, not cleverness. You win by moving in a calm, professional order.
Get the offer
This is a fact-finding call. Ask questions, collect information, express excitement. Do not negotiate.
Ask for time
48 hours minimum. "I'd love to review the full package carefully."
Research
Know the band for your level/role. Use Levels.fyi, Glassdoor, or ask your network.
Counter
Target total comp, not just base. Be specific. "If we can get to $X total..."
Close
Be committal. "If you can get to $X, I'm ready to sign."
Know your levers
Different industries have different comp structures. The psychology is the same — the levers change.
- • Base
- • Equity
- • Signing Bonus
- • Level
- • Base
- • Performance Bonus
- • Guaranteed Bonus
- • Title
- • Base
- • PTO
- • Loan Repayment
- • CME Budget
- • Base
- • Signing Bonus
- • Flexibility
- • Title
How to negotiate each lever
The scripts
📧 Email is your friend
You don't have to negotiate on the phone. Email gives you time to think, craft your words, and avoid saying something you regret under pressure. Most recruiters are fine with email — they prefer written records too.
- • Making your counter-offer
- • Responding to a lowball
- • Asking for more time
- • Anything you want a paper trail for
- • Building rapport early in the process
- • When they specifically ask to call
- • If you're very close to a deal and need to finalize
- • When you want to hear their tone/excitement
Pro tip: If they call you, it's okay to say "Thanks for calling — let me think about this and follow up by email."
Copy these. Modify for your situation. The key is to be warm, specific, and committal.
Counter-Scripts for Common Situations
Click any situation to see what to say — and what the recruiter hears when you say it.